Is there something bothering you?

Are you sure nothing is wrong?

These are persistent questions that normally come seeking for an honest and sincere response of how you feel, but more than desired recieve the ‘NOTHING‘ response. (and yes I’m talking about you ladies) Communication is the most given advise to failing couples around the world and still most fail to do it.  Do these once deeply in love individuals learn new languages and can no longer make sense to one another? or is it the ‘nothing answer’ that leads this once hopeful couple into a dark place?

Ladies, before you get angry with me (and you might) hear me out. So many of my male friends (at times female) complain about how they get the ‘silent treatment‘. For those not familiar to the concept, this when your spouse/partner deliberately decides to shut you out and will ignore you until the silence actually starts to buzz. (it’s not a pretty situation) The longer you take figuring out what you did ‘wrong’ the longer the silence treatment goes on. Keep in mind that you will most likely fail to figure it out and be labeled ‘uncaring’ or pretty much do not take time to know your partner. This is a time to tread carefully.

Most men you will meet on this planet have low concentration levels and memory. They want direct answers and hate puzzels thus making the ‘nothing answer’ destructive than productive in a relationship.  A man will forget an important day, fail to say thank you or repeat the same thing you warned him about today and a minute after. This is not always an act of defiance but in most a testosterone issue. (but we try)  So why feed this natural defect when a honest answer can save a week of agonizing silent treatment.

Establishing an honest communicating relationship is something I think can help maintain happiness and clarity between the two of you. ‘Is there something bothering you?‘ he asks. ‘Can you stop checking out women when we are walking hand in hand?‘ Knowledge changes perception and action. Behaviour is bred by habit. All am saying is, start a conversation (not a quarrel) and make your feelings known. In whatever way, your partner/spouse is able to understand you, make the tireless effort to be a reminder Ladies, for men a babies again.