Being the first choice is any man’s clandestine desire. Being on TOP of the list ,number ONE and knowing deep down that his woman desperately wanted to end up with him. Reality check my fellow male species, you are not on top of that list. You were, will be and are still her SAFE GUY.

Truth be told, every man or woman does fall in love. Is this love mutual? Not always. Women will never let you have that truth. She will sleep with you, smile with you but if chance came, she will leave you in an instant for her FANTASY GUY. (without warning by the way) So who is the SAFE GUY?

Ready or not, the search for ‘the one’ begins when you meet them, get to know them and it happens. The obscure event that drops you into a pool of wild feelings.  LOVE.  A journey without direction but mystery. If you end up together or not, she will always know that you are her guy. Her choice (if all factors were constant). The man of her dreams.

Do dreams come true? Debatable. Are you her first choice? Comme ci comme ca. These are factors some care for and others dare not to know.

just asking.

Do you drive her crazy? Will she do anything to keep you? Are you always on her mind? Well the list continues but the gist is, to be the atomic love grenade that shutters her mind and leaves her on the edge. (confused?) If you are in a relationship that feels like a routine,(office-work-home-sleep) then probably you are a SAFE GUY.  Peaceful, calm, predictable, a good guy. (Yeah she got tired of the bad boys and wanted something safe)

You ended up with the girl but she didn’t end up with the guy. So should you be unhappy? No, take the time and be spontaneous. Normal is good but not exciting. Be a blend of her fantasy and Safe guy. Take steps to move up that list. (Entirely for your EGO guys, entirely)  I’m not telling you to change into something unrecognizable, for however ‘safe’ you are, there is something she loves and adores about you.