You are her SAFE guy

Posted on by Edris Matu Segawa

Being the first choice is any man’s clandestine desire. Being on TOP of the list ,number ONE and knowing deep down that his woman desperately wanted to end up with him. Reality check my fellow male species, you are not on top of that list. You were, will be and are still her SAFE GUY.

Truth be told, every man or woman does fall in love. Is this love mutual? Not always. Women will never let you have that truth. She will sleep with you, smile with you but if chance came, she will leave you in an instant for her FANTASY GUY. (without warning by the way) So who is the SAFE GUY?

Ready or not, the search for ‘the one’ begins when you meet them, get to know them and it happens. The obscure event that drops you into a pool of wild feelings.  LOVE.  A journey without direction but mystery. If you end up together or not, she will always know that you are her guy. Her choice (if all factors were constant). The man of her dreams.

Do dreams come true? Debatable. Are you her first choice? Comme ci comme ca. These are factors some care for and others dare not to know.

just asking.

Do you drive her crazy? Will she do anything to keep you? Are you always on her mind? Well the list continues but the gist is, to be the atomic love grenade that shutters her mind and leaves her on the edge. (confused?) If you are in a relationship that feels like a routine,(office-work-home-sleep) then probably you are a SAFE GUY.  Peaceful, calm, predictable, a good guy. (Yeah she got tired of the bad boys and wanted something safe)

You ended up with the girl but she didn’t end up with the guy. So should you be unhappy? No, take the time and be spontaneous. Normal is good but not exciting. Be a blend of her fantasy and Safe guy. Take steps to move up that list. (Entirely for your EGO guys, entirely)  I’m not telling you to change into something unrecognizable, for however ‘safe’ you are, there is something she loves and adores about you.

‘Nothing’ A woman’s answer.

Posted on by Edris Matu Segawa

Is there something bothering you?

Are you sure nothing is wrong?

These are persistent questions that normally come seeking for an honest and sincere response of how you feel, but more than desired recieve the ‘NOTHING‘ response. (and yes I’m talking about you ladies) Communication is the most given advise to failing couples around the world and still most fail to do it.  Do these once deeply in love individuals learn new languages and can no longer make sense to one another? or is it the ‘nothing answer’ that leads this once hopeful couple into a dark place?

Ladies, before you get angry with me (and you might) hear me out. So many of my male friends (at times female) complain about how they get the ‘silent treatment‘. For those not familiar to the concept, this when your spouse/partner deliberately decides to shut you out and will ignore you until the silence actually starts to buzz. (it’s not a pretty situation) The longer you take figuring out what you did ‘wrong’ the longer the silence treatment goes on. Keep in mind that you will most likely fail to figure it out and be labeled ‘uncaring’ or pretty much do not take time to know your partner. This is a time to tread carefully.

Most men you will meet on this planet have low concentration levels and memory. They want direct answers and hate puzzels thus making the ‘nothing answer’ destructive than productive in a relationship.  A man will forget an important day, fail to say thank you or repeat the same thing you warned him about today and a minute after. This is not always an act of defiance but in most a testosterone issue. (but we try)  So why feed this natural defect when a honest answer can save a week of agonizing silent treatment.

Establishing an honest communicating relationship is something I think can help maintain happiness and clarity between the two of you. ‘Is there something bothering you?‘ he asks. ‘Can you stop checking out women when we are walking hand in hand?‘ Knowledge changes perception and action. Behaviour is bred by habit. All am saying is, start a conversation (not a quarrel) and make your feelings known. In whatever way, your partner/spouse is able to understand you, make the tireless effort to be a reminder Ladies, for men a babies again.

REVIEW: The peak Age of Ultron missed.

Posted on by Edris Matu Segawa

With a great movie comes great sequel expectations.
After the first Avenger movie made over 1billion dollars($1,518.6b for figures’ sake), Age of Ultron had big shoes to fill… but after stepping out of the Ultron’s screening, I was a little disappointed and wondered if this new entry will deliver…and here am not talking of box office. (That boat will sink in money.) I’m talking about keeping us (movie lovers) excited and still invested in this ever growing marvel universe. I write this article entirely because I have watched and loved movies since childhood. I am now a TV producer and talking film is something I do every single day. So why not share my thoughts on this box office buster.

A hero is expected to beat the bad guy and save the world or the girl or something? So what makes one hero more of a hero than other heroes? (Clark no hurt feelings ). The answer to that is ‘the villain our hero has to beat.’ The stronger and harder the villain is to beat the more a hero attains glory in our eyes.

Marvel introduced LOKI early in the first Thor movie and by Avengers we knew, felt and understood his villainous intentions. Sadly for ULTRON, he is created in five minutes and struggles to connect with us over the mind blowing action sequences, the twins’ debut (scarlet witch and Quicksilver), the long line-up of super heroes and a hot Scarlett Johansson kicking butt! In the end, as a movie goer I fail to see Ultron’s bad guy effect and see him as a cool idea on paper but missed the target on screen.

Don’t get wrong, Age of Ultron is a good movie but at this point or phase (as marvel calls it) it needed to be a classic and it failed for me and here is why. (in hope marvel works this out). The rush syndrome . In the first few minutes of Avengers: age of Ultron, Tony Stark gets a crazy idea of creating an AI to simplify the Avengers’ job (lazy people have great ideas) that gives birth to Ultron. In the next two minutes, Ultron is already terrorizing the Avengers and in the next, he has a collaboration with the Twins and has built a machine that can lift a town to space and he is presumably killed by Vision in next thirty or so.  If you think Quick Silver was fast think again.

They are not that connected. Remember when this was one of marvel’s selling points? How all movies are connected? Well Age of Ultron feels like a stand alone movie that comes and goes. Apart from having the same actors and characters and well the infinity stones..uh this movie doesn’t feel that connected. I wonder if Tony had started working on Ultron back in IRON MAN 3 and we had seen Ultron show signs of him manifesting into the terror he is supposed to be maybe this would have made a difference. (just thinking)

The twins. Readers of comic books might well be aware that The scarlet witch doesn’t join the Avengers till later but Marvel felt the urge to make  her a hero as soon as possible. This didn’t really establish her as a main avenger but a side kick who can wave her hands at objects and they fly or burst into tiny little pieces. I wonder if the Quicksilver’s fate would have been shared by her but she’s an awesome character and I just wish they had given her and us time to know her a little better on screen.

Are the Avengers exhausted? Maybe it’s Joss or the Avengers themselves but I could not stop Tony Stark’s words from echoing in my head that he was tired and wanted to go home. The whole movie felt tired of saving the world and probably our heroes need new motivation and not to simply be a 911 to world disaster.

Congested.Like most posters for Age of ultron, the movie suffered from congestion and thus most of the short comings I have talked about. I understand the need to do better and bigger but it’s a road to carefully take.

All said, I love comic movies and I hope ANT-MAN can be a fresh sunrise to the Marvel universe. Probably DC can be more cautious on wearing out the hero movie era and keep it interesting and fresh each time we step into cinemas. Age of Ultron is a fun movie with great action sequences and trust that you will need more popcorn.